Changing Roles in Retirement
At every stage in life we all make choices that best suits what we think are important.
Being retired is no different. When you ask someone “What do you do?” and they reply “Retired” we may well fall back on our stereotypical views on retirement. They could anything from Caribbean cruises to sensible clothes and “Nana Naps”.
Retirement is no different to any other stage of life. One size does not fit all! If you are in any doubt take a look at the contributions from my “Roving Retirees”
Relationships, however are the one constant. Unless you are living completely off grid we all have to get along with others.
Being retired there are some dynamics we don’t have to deal with crying babies teenage angst come to mind! Such is life that these have been replaced with retirement alternatives.
A married couple have spent many years negotiating, compromising and accepting a living plan that work for them. Retirement demands that this negotiating, compromising and accepting process has to start again. It’s no secret that some of these difficulties have their roots in unavoidable changes. We may jokingly refer to it as the “Grumpy Old Man” syndrome but if you have to live with it the joke is not a funny one. To be fair the grumpy old man doesn’t like it either! I have put together 8 Ways you can tackle this problem together.
Being retired there are some things we won’t miss, crying babies, teenage angst come to mind! However, there are retirement alternatives!
Retired Single Women
Retirement for singles raises a completely different set of challenges Yes, you have the house to yourself. You can eat when, where and what you like but when things go wrong your on your own. So, there are those who are on their own and like it and those who don’t. The problem arises when those around them don’t know the difference!
Then there are the single women who see the world as one big playground. Take a look at how Gwen Forester takes up the challenge
“There are two types of single retired women. Those who are on their own and like it and those who don’t. The problem arises when those around them don’t know the difference. “
A Retired Single Men
Single men often find themselves having to learn new skills just at the very time when their confidence is taking a nose dive and their ability to deal with stress along with it! For all my non cooking male readers I have put together a small sample of simple recipes to get you comfortable in the kitchen.
It’s not all doom and gloom though As grandparents we get to enjoy all the best bits. If you are struggling with being a grandparent to little millennials or techno obsessives then have a look at my 10 Top Tips
Just when you get your head around the fact that the “empty nest” may have some good points and as leaving the work force is inevitable we might as well make the most of it other forces come into play that effect our plan for retirement.
Retired Full Time Carers
1. Increasingly, grandparents today take on a new role. That of full time child carer which is quite different to that of babysitter. In many cases this is seen as a way of helping their children get on the property ladder. This grand parenting role is completely different from that of being “just” a grandparent. Either way, grand-parenting can be a minefield for everyone. Some problems can be avoided and, as always, for warned is for armed.
2. Of course children are not the only ones that need to be cared for. Caring for parents of other dependent adults brings a completely different set of challenges. Check out Geraldine Foster to see how she combines being retired and a carer.
3. Gender also dictates that women will outlive their husband. In their retirement years many women find themselves being the primary carer for their husband. Of course, financial independence can make a big difference but relationships often suffer irrespective of finances.
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