What Will Your Retirement Look Like?
Are you part of the
“Grass is Always Greener” Phenomenon
Many people believe that retirement equals “not working”. But given the opportunity to be unemployed, why do so many return to some sort of paid employment. Why do they choose to fill every day with “volunteer” work? For some, it seems, that retirement can be hard work! Hard work in areas that were never anticipated. No wonder many retirees long for the days when they had purpose, friends and the opportunity to look forward to having a weekend off!
In my other posts I have looked at these unexpected challenges such as planning for retirement and our changing roles in retirement. However, there is nothing like listening to others to widen our horizons and inspire us to try a different approach.
The changing relationships in retirement also includes the relationship we have with ourselves! At certain times of the day TV goes into “prepare for your funeral” overdrive! I know I’m the target market but I don’t feel old! Challenges have ruled my life and the only reason I was even thinking about “settling down” was the idea that I should because of my age. Then, my daughter introduced me to TED Talks. What better way to avoid afternoon TV then listening to the challenging ideas and inspirational lifestyles of my contempories.
These podcasts, and videos dixcuss aging, motivation, happiness and alternative lifestyles. Each of these highlight issues that all individuals have to deal with on a daily basis. However, retirement can be a time when these issues assume greater influence without the distractions and focus of working.
Your Birth Certificate Identifies Your Age!
But how old do you feel?
Isabele Allende is a women who admits to a life of vanity and enjoying being the centre of attention. Now she is learning how to come to terms with the invisibility of aging. She admits she is a work in progress but her simple message is worth listening to. Viva jubilacion! (That’s retirement in Spanish)
Being Happy Keeps You Healthy
But What Makes Us Happy?
The longest running research into “happiness” is the platform of this TED talk. Robert Waldinger explores why being happy is important. More importantly he tells us what will keep us happy! As the fourth director of a 75-year-old study on adult development he should know! The answer it seems is neither money or fame. It seems social interaction is the key to a healthy mind and body.
When we leave the workforce we also leave behind colleagues who have been the focus of much of our social interaction. As Robert Waldinger puts it………..
“We have to replace our workmates with playmates!”
Social Interaction Adds Years To Your Life
Based on her research Susan Pinker talks about the evidence that supports the idea that staying in contact with others is the key to a positive and healthy long life! Face to face social integration is the key. It can be as little as eye contact or a hand shake. She rates interaction as being just as important as diet and exercise!
During my pre-retired life almost all my social interactions were made through my role as nurse/teacher. As an introvert coming home was “my” time. I recharged ready for the next day. Fast forward to retirement and my social interaction was zilch. Even now I have to make a conscious effort to be “social”. This talk by Susan Pinker was a timely reminder.
The Ageing Process
My Mother’s Wisdom On The Ageing Process
“Use It Or Lose It!”
My mother was a simple women born in the East End of London, 1916. Her life choices were limited as was her education. Life experience was her greatest teacher. Rheumatism was an integral part of her ageing process hence the “Use it of lose it” philosophy. This morning I heard someone else use the same phrase in relation to brain plasticity and the ageing process. (Hence the memories of my mother). What a positive way to start the day. With the best of intentions and love my family often worry that I’m doing to much, I need to slow down and really, do I need to learn to surf at my age? Now I have Professor Hickie on my side.
Grab a cup of coffee, find a quite spot and tell me if he has the same effect on you.
Anti Aging Exercises
STOP PRESS: Exercising may be painful but…
Your brain cells are loving it!
It used to be thought that only babies made new brain cells. However, more and more research is showing that in the right conditions new brain cells are a life long possibility.Anti aging exercises have many provisos related to mobility, health, opportunity and budget. The good news is that each of these factors can be influenced by us! The degree will vary but no matter how small we can make a difference. I have recently discovered Zumba! I used to think it was an over hyped, over advertised, over marketed exercise fad but after only one session I was hooked. Listening to Wendy Suzuki I realized that anti aging exercises keep my brain cells dancing too!